Every mother has a birth story. And for those of us who are blessed with more than one child, you get more than one kind of unique birthing story. Mine is no different. Therefore I thought I’d give you a few tips and tricks for new and veteran mothers out there to help your birth story go smoothly.
- Bring the things that bring you joy. Many people talk about bringing an IPod with their favorite tunes, but for me this has always been my pillow. I’ve been SO glad that I have always managed to remember to bring my pillow. Its comforting and secure and a little piece of home. Plus they are way more supportive than those silly hospital pillows! This time I also brought a few essential oils to help calm my nerves. Other times I have brought hard candy to suck on since you aren’t allowed to eat and those have been wonderful choices. In fact I was wishing I had brought them this time too! Oh well. Maybe next time…. if there is a next time!
- It’s ok to cry. Because my angel decided that she was comfy in her womb, my doctor and I decided that I she needed a bit of a push and I got induced (I was late after all!). Overall my induced labors have my best experiences, but its still labor and still traumatic anyway you slice it. When the nurses start to poke and prod you or simply forget to say hello when they enter a room, it can seem traumatizing. My emotions get the better of me and I cried off and on throughout the process. It had nothing to do with physical pain and way more to do with coping with my out of control feelings.
- Be flexible. The first day I was really not feeling up to having any visitors. Normally I can’t wait to see people, but this time I was really cherishing the precious time I was having with just my husband and brand new baby. However, we got a text from my brother in law asking “You guys up for visitors?” with Music Man responding “Not really. How about tomorrow?” with an immediate “Oh well we are downstairs“. That meant that my brother in law, his wife and his kids were there waiting in the lobby! Not my ideal plan but I stayed positive and allowed them to come and meet their new cousin/niece, although to be honest I was really hoping to have my kids meet their new baby sister first. I just kept saying to myself “I’m happy that they are excited and wanted to meet the baby.”
- Have a sense of humor. As soon as this precious baby came out everybody turned and asked “What’s her name?“. Well, we weren’t quite sure (I know, I know we were indecisive!) but blurted out what our top choice was. It turns out that our eccentric doctor just happened to have a song with her name as the title on his phone that he wanted to share with the room. Did I mention that the hard rock band was notorious for their explicit lyrics? Instead of welcoming our precious princess with the sweet comforts of peace, we were all blasted with an insane heavy hitting song with unmentionable lyrics. All we could do was laugh and cement that that was indeed her name.
- Bring snacks. Unfortunately I didn’t, however my brother in law’s unexpected (and uninvited) visit had some wonderful perks. They kindly brought an edible arrangement which became a fabulous midnight treat. Fantastic for those midnight nursing sessions!
- Cherish the alone time. I know I might not be in the majority in this, but I love being at the hospital for my births. Why? Because they have a fleet of nurses there to help you every step! Plus, with child care taken care of (thank you so much in laws!!!) all my husband and I have to do is recover/heal and admire our precious bundle of joy. I soak it all up because once we are home, we are back in the throws of chaos that only family can bring and we will never be able to recapture that time. Often times Music Man also has to work while trying to take care of me and the new baby. I was grateful that the Lord worked it out where his concentration was on his wife and brand new baby this time. Cherish it ladies!
- Make sure to bring your camera. There are all the ‘first’s’ to capture like the weighing, the first bath and the first time momma and daddy hold their sweet pea. But my favorite moments to capture on camera is when the siblings get to meet for the very first time. Oh my sweet momma heart just explodes!
Do you have any tips or tricks? How was your birth experience?